S3EP44: WOMEN GIVE WOMEN A BAD NAME

Apr 10

Written By Cameron Sepulveda

We love women. We are women. But somewhere along the way… we fcked some things up.

In this episode, we go a few different directions — sharing stories we’ve heard, witnessed, or lived ourselves.

Disagree with either of the topics? Let’s talk about it. #SlideTFIn

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Are We… the Problem? (Let’s Talk About It)

Okay, we’re gonna say something that might not sit well with everyone—but whatever. We’re not here to play it safe.

Some women are giving women a bad name.
And yes, we said what we said.

In our latest episode of DM For Guestlist, we opened the floodgates on something we’ve both seen way too often: control disguised as love, jealousy masked as empowerment, and women lowkey sabotaging their own relationships (and friendships) without even realizing it.

This isn’t about hating on women. We are women. This is about holding up a mirror—and maybe doing a little uncomfy self-reflection together.

When “Strong Woman” Energy Starts Getting Messy

The episode kicked off with a story about one of Chris’s security guards whose girlfriend told him he wasn’t “allowed” to work downtown anymore because she didn’t trust the environment.

Not because of something he did—but because she just didn’t like the idea of it.

And that’s kind of the theme, right? We say we want trust, freedom, equality… but then we micromanage the people we love. We treat our relationships like they’re made of glass, or worse—like our man is a child who needs supervision.

Spoiler: if you have to control someone to keep them, you already lost them.

The Girlboss Hangover Is Real

Let’s talk about the “I don’t need a man” era.

We get it. We’ve been there. That energy served us for a while—but if we’re being honest, it’s starting to feel more like a defense mechanism than an empowered mindset.

Somewhere along the line, society convinced us that wanting a partner made us weak. That relying on someone meant we were failing. But what if we just want a healthy, stable, safe relationship? That doesn’t mean we’re not independent. That means we’re human.

Being soft doesn’t make you small. Being in love doesn’t make you any less powerful.

The Jealousy No One Talks About

Let’s be really real for a second.

There have been times when we’ve felt weird talking about our relationships around single friends. Not because we were bragging—but because the energy shifted. Like people were waiting for us to admit it’s not that great, or to hear that it’s “too good to be true.”

And on the flip side, we’ve both been the friend who felt that way too. Like, why does she have that kind of love and I don’t? Why does she get to feel so safe?

It’s uncomfortable, but it’s true: sometimes the hate is just projection.

You don’t actually hate her relationship. You’re just mad you don’t have it yet. And instead of asking what needs to shift in your own life, it’s easier to write her off or assume it’s fake.

Soft Doesn’t Mean Weak

If there’s one thing we hope this episode reminds people of, it’s that you can be strong and soft. You can have a thriving career and a relationship that grounds you. You don’t have to perform independence to prove something.

You’re allowed to want love. You’re allowed to want to be taken care of. You’re allowed to be fully in your feminine without sacrificing your ambition.

There’s no prize for doing it all alone. Let that era go.

Real Talk: Your Relationship Isn’t the Problem. You Might Be.

We said it. 😬

Sometimes the reason you’re not in a healthy relationship is… you. Not because you’re broken or “too much” or whatever TikTok said this week—but because you’re leading with fear, control, or unhealed stuff you haven’t looked at yet.

We’ve been there. We still go there sometimes.

But the shift starts when you stop blaming everyone else and start asking better questions. Like: