S3EP43: ADULTING

Apr 4

Meet the best versions of ourselves we've ever been. We’ve been leveling up, making hard cuts, recognizing our worth, pushing eachother to grow, and doing the scary shit. We've realized: if it feels safe, it’s holding you back.

You are the sum of your closest people and all of your choices, so we're surrounding ourselves with people who get it, support us, and challenge us. To the fkn moon.

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Grown, Glowing & Cutting People Off: Welcome to Our Adulting Era

“Adulting” used to mean figuring out how to do your taxes without crying or making it through brunch without blacking out.

But now?
It’s so much more than that.

In this episode of DM For Guestlist, we (Cameron & Kelsey) sat down—sober, clear-headed, and lowkey thriving—to unpack what “being an adult” actually looks and feels like in 2025.

Spoiler alert: it’s not about having a mortgage or being married. It’s about being aligned as hell, cutting the dead weight (no offense), and actually liking who you are when no one’s watching.

The Realest Thing About Adulting? You Outgrow People.

Let’s just say it:

There’s nothing more adult than realizing you’ve been keeping people around out of habit, not alignment.

We both touched on this:

Cutting off friendships that were more “history” than “healthy.”
Saying goodbye to clients who drained us more than they paid us.
Letting go of people who didn’t clap when we were finally winning.

It’s not petty—it’s necessary.

We’re not here to stay in the group chat out of guilt. If it doesn’t add peace, purpose, or potential? Snip snip, babe.

You’re Either Around People Who Drain You—or People Who Inspire the Sh*t Out of You

Here’s the biggest shift:

Surrounding ourselves with women (and partners) who are actually on their grown-person sh*t.

Cameron met a crew of women in Charlotte who are building careers, buying homes, getting divorced with grace, and somehow still showing up at brunch with the calmest, most put-together energy you’ve ever seen.

Kelsey’s fully in her no-makeup, Saturday-volunteering, early-to-bed, clean-eating glow-up era—prioritizing her health, her business, and her peace over brunch mimosas and burnout.

It’s not glamorous. But it’s everything.

Adulting Is Choosing the Thing That’s Better for Your Future You

“I could go out tonight... or I could stay in, drink water, and not sabotage my whole week for three vodka sodas and a stranger’s Snapchat.”

It’s giving:

Clear skin.
No Sunday scaries.
Actual momentum in your goals.
And waking up proud of yourself instead of asking, “Wait, did I say that out loud?”

We’re not saints. We’ve just been to the dark side—and tbh, it’s kind of boring now.

Real Growth? It Starts With One Scary, Slightly Delusional Decision

Whether it’s quitting a toxic job, leaving a one-sided relationship, moving cities, or launching a side hustle—adulting is choosing the riskier thing because it’s better for your soul.

Yes, it’s scary.
Yes, people will question you.
But once you leap? The doors start flying open. Fast.

Sometimes the universe just needs you to get out of your own way.

If You’re the Most Grown Person in the Room, You’re in the Wrong Room

This one’s for the people still shrinking to make other people feel comfortable.

You know you’ve outgrown your circle when:

You’re the only one asking deeper questions.
You’re the only one investing in yourself.
You’re the only one not okay with “just getting by.”

Find the room where you feel like the least successful, least experienced, least evolved person in the room. That’s the room that’ll change your life.

PSA: Choosing Sobriety, Stability & Peace Doesn’t Make You Boring

We’re not anti-fun.
We’re just pro-feeling good the next day.

We still go out. We still say yes to things. We’re just not afraid to say no now, either. No to shots we don’t want. No to brunches that drain us. No to friends who get weird when we prioritize ourselves.

If that’s “boring,” then boring is the new sexy.

Final Thought: If It Doesn’t Feel a Little Scary, It’s Probably Not Growth

Let this be your permission slip to: