S4EP53: WAIT… ARE WE SUPPOSED TO HAVE MORE FRIENDS?
Because by the looks of social media, everyone in their 30s is attending 14 weddings a year, going on bachelorette trips abroad, and rolling deep with a perfectly curated friend group.
Meanwhile… some of us are perfectly happy at home with our partner, our dog(s), a coffee, and about two people we actually want to talk to.
In this episode, we get honest about adult friendships, shrinking social circles, and the weird identity shift that happens in your 30s when you start realizing you don’t actually want the same social life you had in your 20s.
And funnily enough, on-air we finally admit to each other that — despite never really labeling it that way — we’re actually the closest people in each other’s lives right now. From work friends… to BEST friends. Or “close friends,” as Cameron prefers to call it lol.
We touch on:
• Why friendships in your 30s feel completely different than in your 20s
• The quiet guilt of feeling like you’ve “failed” at friendships
• Why your social circle naturally gets smaller as you grow
• Partner vs friendship dynamics (and why your partner can’t be your only emotional outlet)
• The reality of seeing friend groups and trips all over social media
• How to make friends as an adult if you actually want more community
• Why some people genuinely feel happiest with a very small circle
Basically: are we anti-social… or just finally honest about what we actually like?
If you’ve ever looked around and thought,
“Wait… am I supposed to have more friends than this?”
#SlideTFIn
Quotes from the episode:
“I feel like I’ve failed a lot of friendships because mine have come and gone.”
“Then you start questioning things like, am I doing something wrong?”
“I was definitely forcing it because of the longevity.”
“To hold onto something just because of longevity doesn’t make sense either.”
“I think I get let down by people because I’m putting too much weight on the relationship.”
“I think once you reach your thirties, the other community you find is the moms.”
“If there is something outside of the things that I really wanna spend my time in doing, I’m gonna say no.”
“I should wanna go out, I should wanna go to weddings, I should wanna go to a bar.”
“I’m going through the motions of small talk and acting interested, but inside I’m so ready to go home.”
“I used to wonder, what am I doing wrong? Why don’t I have that?”
“I even think ‘best friend’ is a little cringe as far as girl to girl.”
“You don’t need to have a best friend.”
“Some women, when they’re single, their lives are so male-centric.”
“I want to get myself into a situation where I’m creating that stability and safety for myself.”
“You can make new friends at any point in life.”